Older Child Adoption

Their Forever Place

Holt Int’l video asking older waiting kids about what it is like to be adopted

Hey TD!

Many of you made a promise before God at TD to be sincerely praying what God would have you do in terms of helping the fatherless (or parentless).  Have you done that?  Has He responded? Or have you listened?

The answer won’t likely strike you like a lightning bolt, but rather, will likely lead you to a longer term perspective.  Whatever the case may be for you, please honor your commitment to pray, then listen well, and then go the direction God wants you to go.

In my family’s case, when heading down the road to adoption, we originally planned to follow God’s lead and adopt two sisters from China, aged 11 and 7.  We didn’t ever really consider adopting a teenager; yet that’s exactly what God had in mind both for us and for Stella all along.  We just didn’t know it yet.  We had to start walking in the direction we believed God was leading us to and He directed who we should be with.

TD, just start walking in ways you know would generally honor God; He’ll direct you to the specific steps you should take, the situations you are to be a part of, and the people you are to engage with.  When He leads and we follow, it’s a perfect match every time!

During Adoption Awareness Month, we’ve been showing you videos to get more familiar with the adoption landscape.  This time, watch, listen, and pray as teenagers your age share their feelings about what it is like for them to be adopted into a family that loves them.

– Arthur

 

 

Want to Know What The Adoption Process and Journey Look Like?

“Welcoming Willa” video with the Veldkamp Family

Hey TD!

As we highlighted in TD on Friday, November is National Adoption Awareness Month.  Most of you raised your hands to commit to seriously praying about what God would have you do with respect to helping address the world’s orphan crisis.  I shared with you how God has used other teenagers within their own families to help change the lives of some orphans through adoption.

I don’t know what God has in mind for you with respect to the orphaned, but I do know that you are to be involved in helping the fatherless in some way, shape, or form.  As Mary Beth Chapman reminds, “Not everyone is called to adopt, but everyone is called to do something.”

So, we will be highlighting various aspects of adoption on our blog this month to help you get more familiar with the ideas, language, and culture of adoption.  From these posts and videos, and through your commitment to pray and then act as God leads, we look forward to seeing how God will work in you and through you.

“Not everyone is called to adopt, but everyone is called to do something.”

– Mary Beth Chapman

Today, we’ll be highlighting what the adoption process and journey look like … in 10 minutes … through the Veldkamp family!  Their journey was very similar to ours, as they used the same agency we did (Holt Int’l) and went through similar family prepping, paperwork, and logistics (both in the US and in China).  We even visited some of the same places and stayed in the same hotel!  And like us, they too adopted a treasure!

Enjoy and reach out to anyone in my family if you’d like to know more about the process!

– Arthur

 

 

Social Media: Fight or Flee?

Vince Vitale: “Is Free Speech Dead?”

Hey TD!

A member of RZIM’s online community posted this recently, and I thought it was apropos for us to consider at TD.  My friend, Dr. Vince Vitale, does a great job in the video that sparked this member’s thoughts.  I hope it will do so for you as well.

Watch the 5-minute video, read her questions, and let us know what you think! – Arthur

Social media is a double-edged sword – we have so many opportunities to speak, but so few opportunities to be heard. I’m a millennial working in communications, and social media perplexes me as a Christian. It’s been on my mind lately, and Vince Vitale’s recent YouTube video got me awonderin’.

  1. What are social media examples you have seen of someone sacrificing themselves to show both love and truth online?
  2. WWJD[SM] – What would Jesus do … with social media? :slight_smile: Jesus is God’s Son, but He also chose to walk with us humans here on earth. What are practical ways you are are deliberate in being a member of social media communities while still shining His light?

 

 

TD Vlog Update #2 – TD Bringing Hope Overseas to Orphaned with Special Needs!

BMH Summer Camp Update from Anabell and Megan

Hey TD!

All summer, TD leaders continue to serve our Father overseas in the Big Country by ministering to orphans with special needs at Bring Me Hope Summer Camps. As you can see, it’s been an amazing time. Please continue to lift them up to our Good Father and pray about what you can do on your end.

Here’s a vlog update from Anabell and Megan who have been moved by the Spirit.

 

 

 

TD Vlog Update – TD Bringing Hope Overseas to Orphaned with Special Needs!

BMH Summer Camp update from Calvin, Daniel, Angela (and Sandra)

Hey TD!

“A Slice of Heaven” – that’s the phrase I have most often heard from those who have served at the Joni and Friends Family Retreat through the years.  These last few years, TD has experienced Family Retreat on steroids with Bring Me Hope’s Summer Camps, where we’ve not only served those with disabilities, but orphaned children with disability … and we’ve done it in the Big Country!  The description used? You guessed it … a slice of heaven.

Here’s a vlog update from Calvin, Daniel, and Angela (interviewed by Sandra), who have had a phenomenal, moving, life-impacting time.

 

Happy 1st Anniversary, Stella!

first day

The first day we met Stella in China

Scrapbook

Celebrating 1 year together!

Hey TD!

One year ago today, we officially adopted Stella as our daughter.  So today, we celebrated Stella’s adoption day with her favorite food: hot pot! I guess you can get the girl out of China, but you can’t get China out of the girl! 🙂

It’s hard to imagine that it’s already been a full year since we adopted Stella.  It’s been quite an incredible journey of life and love together, and you all at TD have been such an important part of helping her adjust to life in America.  Thank you!

We love having Stella as a full-fledged member of our family; each one of us loves and admires her quite a bit and can’t imagine life without her.  We look forward to what God has in store for us and for her, and we know that you all will have an important role to play in her life as well.

Here’s to new beginnings, God’s grace, and the love of family!

– Arthur

 

Kodi Lee – Blind with Autism on “America’s Got Talent” – it’s way more than just a great story …

Kodi’s performance on America’s Got Talent

Hey TD,

The abortion debate is in full swing and the United States Supreme Court upheld Indiana’s legislation that requires burial or cremation of a baby’s body following an abortion. Yet, it declined to consider the constitutionality of Indian’s law that bans abortion based on sex, race, or disability.

Planned Parenthood’s founder, Margaret Sanger advocated for the compulsory segregation or sterilization of the “unfit” as well as eliminating the “unfit” before they are born, so they would not become a burden on society.  What a slippery slope. Who gets to determine who is “unfit”? Who gets to define a “burden” and the criteria used to determine that? Who determines that one life is more valuable and meaningful than another? On what basis? Says who?

If God created us and actively gives and sustains the lives of every human being on the planet each and every moment, is stands to reason that He, the Author of Life itself, alone has the right to determine its worth.  What we find in the Bible is that God bestows inherent dignity and worth to EVERY human being, as each human – no matter how different he/she is than others – is valuable and bears His image.

Watching Kodi Lee’s amazing performance on America’s Got Talent illustrated that for me, as many would consider him “unfit” to live and a drain on society’s resources.  Others argue on the basis of “compassion” for those with disabilities, stating that eliminating them would be a compassionate act, putting them out of their misery and sparing them the indignity of being reminded every day they’re alive that they aren’t “normal.” Who would want to live that way? That’s cruelty, they argue.

In my experience with those with disabilities and their families, I have found exactly the opposite to be true for both the disabled and their families.  Many affected by disabilities are actually quite happy, and their families feel immensely blessed to have them in their families.

Watching Kodi and his family affirmed all of that for me.  We are not defined by our abilities or lack of them.  We are defined by the value God places on us and goes straight to who we are – God’s image bearers. – Arthur